I am 33 years old, and I have overcome a lot of personal obstacles in my own life. My background is that I suffered from physical, emotional, and mental abuse from my Mother since I was a baby. Personally, it was a very long struggle to break free from the cycle of abuse and allow myself to heal from trauma. However, I have suffered from another form of abuse from a step-father who sexually abused me. I experienced nightmares and I developed mental health conditions as a result. I saw and heard my step-father abusing my mom. I felt helpless because my mom did not want to seek help. She knew the abuse was wrong, but she was afraid to leave. I let her cry on my shoulder and listened to her, but I could not save my mom because it was her decision to stay with an abuser. As a result, she did not believe me that her husband sexually abused me. I made the decision to separate myself from my mom and her husband because I went to counseling, and the counselor taught me to make healthy decisions in my life. I learned to be assertive and to express my needs. I set boundaries with my mom and step-father. I made the decision to cut off my relationship with my mom and step-father because they did not want to change, and they did not show me love the way I deserved. I went through an adjustment period living without my mom, and the hardest part was to move on without my mother. My mother and I had a codependent relationship, but we were close and told each other everything. I felt she was my best friend, but she was abusing me at the same time. It was a love-hate relationship. It took me many years to stand up for myself and set boundaries with my mom. When I turned 20 years old, I was planning to get married, and she hit me out of anger. I called my ex-husband, and he told me to work it out with my mom. The next day is when I had enough, and I moved out. I came to point where I was at my limit, and I would not tolerate abuse anymore. Then, I married my ex-husband, but the cycle of abuse continued with him. He became verbally, emotionally, and mentally abusive. After 3 years, I left him, and I moved in with my mom again. However, the abuse continued again. Then, my mom did not want me to live with her, so I moved to a different place. It was an unending cycle of moving in with my mom and moving out of my mom’s house repeatedly. Finally, after my step-father sexually abused me, I filed for a protection order and moved somewhere where he could not find me. I told my mother that I cannot have a father-daughter relationship with her husband. She said, “Well, I guess we will not have a relationship then”. I said, “Okay. Bye”. Then, I moved into a new place, but I began to have mental breakdowns from experiencing excessive amount of stress from abuse. I became hospitalized and went to different mental health facilities. Finally, I moved out of the mental health facility, and I lived on my own living on Social Security Disability, living on my own with roommates. On a positive note, I met my fiance` I have today, and he has made my life so much better. I went through an adjustment period where I had to learn how to have healthy relationships because I had unhealthy relationships with men in the past. It took a year for me to work through these issues. My fiance` is a Mental Health Counselor, and he has been a positive relationship in my life. I have had a lot of unhealthy relationships in the past, and I learned how to move forward from the abuse. We are getting married next year, and I had to take time to learn to trust him. He has earned my trust by showing me I can trust him. It has not always been easy for him when I went through this difficult time to work through these issues in my past, but he has had the patience to help me. He wanted to give me the opportunity to change, and he has shown me great love despite my personal problems. Now, I have a very happy life, and I can function in a healthy relationship because my fiance` has taught me how to have a healthy relationship. He has taught me how to maintain stable mental health and maintain stable behavior. I was in and out of counseling for a lot of years, but my fiance` is the one that helped me change. A lot of people have tried to help me, but my fiance` has had the gift of making a positive impact in someone’s life. I believe a positive support system is the best way to make your life better and help you to live a healthy life. It took me one year to work though all of my issues from the abuse of the past, but my fiance` worked with me on a daily basis to listen and guide me. I would not be where I am without my fiance`. As a result, I am mentally and emotionally stable in my life. I have a positive self-esteem of who I am, and I feel I can move forward with my life. I realized that in order for me to have a healthy relationship with my fiance`, I had to learn to not let the past affect my relationship with my fiance`. I had to let go of the past, and I had to learn to trust him. I realize that not everyone will accept me, and that is okay. It only matters I accept myself, and my fiance` loves me. I am more independent than dependent on people. I have learned to be happy with myself. I have overcome depression, panic attacks, anxiety, and fear. I have learned my wants and needs matter. I was determined to have healthy relationships, and as a result, I met someone who is healthy for me. My positive mind-set helped me to have a happy lifestyle. My background is that I came from a religious home, and my belief in God has helped me to have hope and faith. My fiance` is a Christian, and his beliefs inspired me to trust in God. My spirituality taught me to not give up and have faith even if it seems hopeless.